I write this with gratitude and inspiration. As we experience life, we will surely endure hardships, a variety of tragedies, loss, and even betrayal. We may experience much that we hadn’t anticipated and wouldn’t have wished upon ourselves or others. Yet, all of those experiences are part of living life. As the years of our lives continue to flow and we experience those things we didn’t anticipate or want, the key will be how we deal with what happens, not so much on what happens.
What we learn is that no matter how awful something seems in the moment, on the other side of the awful, we have an opportunity for magic, a space in time for a miracle, an opening for blessings and love and joy. Our power lies in our ability to control our minds and what we decide to focus our attention upon, and if we so choose, we can decide to focus on what we have, on that for which we are grateful, on all the things in our lives that bring us joy. We can choose to allow the things we have lost, to be just that, things that are no longer in our presence but that gave us joy at an earlier time and allowed us to grow and to be better and more of who we are, now. And for that we can be grateful.
Isn’t it best to concentrate on what we have, on what we enjoy and who we love, on those in our sphere who support us and love us unconditionally? We can learn to be grateful for even the awful, once we realize how important the painful events in our lives are for our growth. Yes, in the moment the awful is just that. We can acknowledge that in the moment, just like we can when we feel sadness or frustration or anger. Yet it does us no good and will actually do our bodies and minds harm, if we allow negative thoughts to dwell in our minds and to be part of our existence. To remain in that space is dangerous; it is unhealthy and potentially deadly. To acknowledge them, and then to move past them, is important for our growth and becoming open to the joy that will come next.
As I reflect on my life, I have learned so much from all that I have endured. I am grateful and feel blessed. I have learned most from the hardships, from the tragedies, from the traumatic events and health scares, and I can honestly say that I am grateful for each one. I most certainly didn’t think they were wonderful at the time, to be sure. Yet, having learned what I have from all of my experiences, I know for certain that I am responsible for myself, for my health, for whatever happens in my life, and most definitely, I am responsible for how I deal with what happens and for how I evolve on the other side of what happens. I have learned, and I encourage you to understand, to know, to believe with all your heart, that you too, can come out on the other side of awful, feeling on top of the world, full of life, blessings and joy and love. How cool is that?!